Crash and Burn
The more you ignore me the closer i get
dr burn and dr crash
my friend gave me your add. im so upset, my ex is stalking me, and i broke up with him since last year, i wish he's gonna go away, i tried everything but hes still there, sometimes i wish something bad will happen to him
pearl
hi pearl,
i could not help but answer your problem straight away, i feel for you because ive had stalkers as well before, i once had an annoying ex, ive also encountered a guy who chased me up across the highway, another one bought the same plane ticket when i went back to my country and yes the usual ones, e.g. anonymous calls on wee hours.
how did i get rid of them?
not so easy, i tell you. but these obsessive people can be dangerous and so it is wise to take necessary precautions towards your safety. i suggest you change your number and make it private and ask your friends and relatives to not just give it away to anyone without your permission. tell them as well that this guy is stalking you so they can protect you in their own way, but if you think it is getting out of hand, go to the police and file a restraining order against him.
what you can do for the time being is to just ignore him. its no use telling him to get a life because obviously he doesnt have one, and you can also take up martial arts lesson, just so
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if you ever get into a situation wherein you have to defend yourself, at least you can give him a good bashing as well.
take care
Dr. Burn
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Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
Now i am confused... I cannot work out whether you are advising one of the doctors to doing further studies (believe it or not we're all degree holders) or if you are just simply advertising your university program in our love blog and forgot to specify your companys name
(its ok, we wont charge you)
tis' a silly fact but my curiosity never fails to embarrass me hahahaha i called the number you listed and even left a message and my contact details (how sweet O__o) and so far have not had any responses yet. Dr. Crash reckons ive been conned. oh well.
i confessed i was seduced with the idea of acquiring an MBA, PHD etc without taking exams or books, though i should know better :P suffice to say, i feel that theres no harm done with contacting you (well maybe not yet) but even if there was, i think that i would not mind coz i know it was all in pursuit of higher learning.
if you are truly a con, i pray that you will have a change of heart soon.
good luck anyway.
Dr. Burn - fire out
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Nosebomb
hey docs,
ive got a prob... i love my boo but shes got Body odor, and i dont know how to tell her without offending her. any suggestions?
nosebomb
ei nosebomb! sorry for not getting back to you straight away, but with regards to your problem, its best if you tell your boo the truth. if you really care for her then you should tell her so she can do something about it.
or you can always give her a set of body fragrances (make sure its got a deodorant), and tell her fragrance layering only works if you use the whole thing.
goodluck and tell us how you go!
bombs away.
Dr. Burn
jumping jill
I've been with my lover for five years now.
We're good friends and I can say that we've shared wonderful and awful memories together.
We've known each other very well... and now that's my problem.
We've known each other very well that I feel like im not interested in him anymore.
I don't want to hurt his feelings and I still feel deeply for him;
too deep that he feels like a brother to me now.
I'm afraid that if I leave him I might regret afterwards.
He has 90 percent the qualities of a man that I truly want.
Have I lost that love and feeling? I'm so confused dear doctors, please help my heart.
jumping jill
jill, five years a long time. some 'lovers' dont even last for a month or a day. so to have endured the sameness for 5 years, is an achievement more or less hehe.
i can imagine that you probably had a colorful jack & jill journey together, that's why its hard for u to let go.
but that is always the case, when someone has created a mark in your life its much more difficult to let him/her go.
so many cherished moments, may it be good or bad will forever stay in your heart.
but love needs to be nourished everyday, a simple reminder each day goes a long way, like a surprise kiss on the cheek or a short sweet note, i dont necessarily suggest u to be mushy (that's so OTT ahahaha and corny)
coz even if u were madly inlove with each other before if you dont nourish the most untouchable part of each other, or u do not constantly remind each other of your love and affection, you'll be surprised to find out one day, that you have grown apart.
so what went wrong in your case? i think, somewhere along the line, something went wrong or something unexpected happened, which could have flawed your relationship or could have triggered your feelings for him.
five years may be long but in the so called 'world of relationship' its still a baby, u see and hear of couple celebrating their 50th year together? now that's long!
ask yourself what has changed, what is it in him that uninterest you now. if you feel for him like a brother, are you also referring to the lust/sex side in your relationship?
coz if yes, then you might have to confront this and discuss with him. you said your concern is that you may hurt him, but keeping your new feelings for him may hurt him more at the end.
love is a risk, i advise you reflect on these very hard before you do break the news to him, weigh things before you decide. after all, whatever we decide in our lives, it will always be right (coz it is after all, our life).
its just a question of how ready we are to actually deal with the consequence of our decisions afterwards.
dr. burn (tumbling after)
p.s. i feel like singing the song "steep" to u just now. *sniff*
That is one sad story. Well what can I say?
You have to assess and reassess your true feelings and try to listen to your innerself because you alone hold the answers to your own questions. You bet its hard, but the benefit is rewarding!!!
Honestly, I can never give you the perfect advice since your problem is very delicate that needs the experiences you alone have. And .. its your problem anyway! (jas kidding jas kidding ^_^ !!)
You see there are a lot of hazes that are clouding our perception especially when we are in a difficult situation.... you need to practise to listen to your self to be able to make the best decision. As I said, You are your own; the triumphs and failures that lie ahead are dependent on what you do now. Though people around you may be there for laughter and sorrow; but in the end it is always you who have to battle your own evils.
Do I make sense? I hope so.. kekekekek
Here's one simple formula that my mom taught me when in trouble of deciding... (which a common recurrence) Write down all the pros and cons that you can think of regarding a decision… its sort of what will happen if I do this… what will happen if I do that blah blah…. in a paper of course .. and then.. reality check... if pros are heavier than cons, then that should be a reli good decision ... if the other way around... then you be the judge for that!
goodluck, hope this helps... and please meditate! Hooom hmmmm hooommm!!
Disoriented
Dr. Crash
single tofee
dear dr. crash & burn
im 25 and im still single, i feel this great void of not having a special someone, they call "the one"
when can you claim youve met "the one"? when do you know if he or she is "the one?"
tofee
-->dear tofee
if its any consolation, i think its a normal feeling when u are around dat age (and counting) *lolz*
but you dont really need to know he or she is "the one" within seconds of locking eyes across a crowded bar. sometimes u meet someone and u think he/she is the one, then they turn out to be a big
mistake. its rather easy for us to think weve found "the one" and be super wrong coz the idea of finding "the one" is by itself intoxicating already.
i truly believe that if youve met the right person, you will just feel that you are with right person and when that happens and whether it works out or not is all but a big gamble. So, don't panic if you're not feeling that mystical yet.
P.S. for the time being, i suggest you stay clear of romantic movies, instead rent some martial arts flick (take it from me) then treat urself wid some toffee or caramel flavoured icecreams or yummy bubbletea, if u are on a strict diet look for the fat free ones (but fat free ones taste yucky)
oh well, u know what i mean.
Dr. Burn
tofee
being single is not that bad... you can practically do all the flirting without having to feel guilty about it! hehehe! free as a bird.
you have survived your 25 years in this planet, obviously you're still alive! so why bother? if it cant kill you it can make you better. and theres no rush, you are still young, one day you will meet that person you are longing for.
I have a thai friend whos been single (very single) for 29 years and now she found a nice russian boyfriend.. oh ha!!! and now shes in a whirlwind of romance. Hang-on there... dont loose hope... look your best everyday, your dreamlover might be that bum on the corner you pass by everyday or your old boss .. or whoever.. sori i lack imagination, the fullmoon tonight is giving me stress! (can u see how magical it looks? gee its soo round and bright!!) your theme song for tonight is somewhere out there beneath the pale moonlight! kekekekek
Dr Crash
re: HP
Hello,
I have a problem and maybe you can help me out.
I would like to know how can I recognize an easy girl from one that is going to give more trouble then she's worth.
I'm not talking (necessarily) in a sex easy way, but in a way that the girl is not that kind of girl that "now I want"... "now I'm not interested in you",,, "hey, now I want you again"... and so on... what happened to consistency in mental state... or is it just me who lately is metting a lot of girls like this... :/
Cheers
HP
Dear HP
unless you have a fat wallet girls would probably hang out with you for your good looks and/or good company. (But I cant speak for nymphos out there who seeks fat things other than wallet ^_^)
oki doki, remember that above all things, good company is very important, girls(usually) get attracted to good looking boys but its the attitude in the end that matters
so be optimistic, remember... things just dont happen, you let them happen, people wont play with your feelings if you wont let them.
cheers
Dr. Crash
oh, this is a hard one to answer (puts on her imaginary glasses)
hmmm... the thing is, u cant reli tell if d girls olrite or a coco n d head up until u get to hang out wid her or spent time wid her and get to know her better.
but u can watch out for some warning signs, like how she acts with u in different situations, with different people and different circumstances. take note on her "good" attitudes, as well as her "not so good" ones (which one is fewer?) try to feel her sincerity when she communicates with you, sometimes if u look hard, ud know if shes faking it, and since you've been wid one, u shud hav an idea olridi, so if u see a copycat in d making, back out while its still early or suffer.
oh by the way here's anoder tip:
women = inconsistency
our favorite excuse on why we change our minds all the time. (and why we can)
Thank God i'm a woman.
Dr. Burn
Anonymous who is not anonymous bob
Up until the moment had passed, where time I cannot recall, was a butterfly that fluttered unerringly towards my heart... I deemed it not possible for something to occur but fate intervened and I find myself surprisingly opening myself up and let the butterfly settle on my hand... Hesitation has been my weakness... With a lot of things in my hand, should I let them go and allow this moment to happen?
Anonymous
--> chances are, you might never get to encounter it again if u hesitate. follow your instincts, obey your thirst, let your feelings flow and free "you". u will feel much much better afterwards.
remember wat yoda sed: do or do not, der is no try.
may the force be with you
Dr. Burn
I have commented on anonymous bob that he dated different species
but i think i have used the wrong term... should be different genus,
the term different species is right syntax for your case!
i get the feeling u are not human, maybe an interplanetary being trying to communicate with us testing our technology and the development of our brain or could be that u are under the influence of drugs... but my vibes is distorted at this time of day.
anonymous, the decision to play with butterflies is one problem a little boy or girl can manage to solve.
but for you to have such a problem, bothers me.... bothers me a lot!! -_-
follow ur instinct. to play or not to play..
my only advise is to research on the types of butterflies that are safe to play with;
there are some beautiful ones that are poisonous, so be careful out there.
but i get this really strong vibes you very well know that already.
Peace
Dr. Crash --> earthling
Anonymous bob
they say that love will come through doors u forgot u left open
but i'v dated many girls lately but they were all shallow.
i fear that i'll never find my true love.
when will the doors open 4 me ?
help me dear docs
Anonymous bob
First of all, I would like to say bravo to you!!!
the first one to post first in this blog...wohoooo!!(klap klap klap)
We should always think that every person is unique and i think u are very unique since u find many girls shallow, this could only mean that you have different brain wave patterns than those other species you have dated!
u see bob,u dont find true love, true love usually develops from those shallow encounters... when u understand and compromise then you open your doors.
i feel you are a person who thinks a lot, it affects the way you see other people
try to "feel" and stop thinking too much! for instance have a couple or three shots of tequila before ur date. (i can have help u wid dis process *wink*)
ur lucky color is mandarin orange, try wearing dat on ur date to lift ur luck.
goodluck
Dr. Crash
ei guys, id like to encourage all of u to be more playful and creative wid ur "names" here (meaning it doesnt have to be anonymous all d time)
it will surely save us from getting confused later on.
for anonymous bob
-->could be your looking for your one true love from all d wrong places and the wrong time. if its any consolation, it really is hard to find girls like us these days u know *lolz*, just as hard to find decent men out there too.
my advise is to take ur time, let the doors open up to the both of you at the same time, you never know, sometimes she's just around the corner.
*start spraying the perfume now*
Dr. Burn
I second that
everything that Dr. Burn said, I second that...
so what are you waiting for? keep the post pouring...
your heart is our concern! *blush*
Dr. Crash
